When it goes from dating to a relationship
Instead of getting angry about it, just give yourself a deadline.
If he doesn’t propose in the next month, then I will be upset and I will deal with it.
From then on, the relationship was no longer enjoyable.
Every interaction and conversation became a test to see exactly where he stood and how he felt.
This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.
In my article on why guys suddenly lose interest, I discussed how caring too much or stressing over your relationship can irreparably damage it. When you eliminate the care (or worry or stress or whatever you want to call it), you are free to really be in the relationship.
The article sparked an avalanche of e-mails and comments from women who were feeling panicked over the state of their relationship. You can see the other person for who he is and you can give yourself to him freely – no strategy, no game-playing, no manipulation. You can just be and there is no greater feeling than that. How do we stop our minds from spinning into overdrive, sending out waves of unpleasant thoughts and alarm bells? Click here to take our quick (and shockingly accurate) “Are You Sabotaging Your Love Life” Quiz right now and find out if you’re sabotaging your love life, and if you need to get out of your own way…
Rather than reflexively panicking when something seems amiss, set a deadline.
For example, if you started seeing a guy and don’t hear from him for a day or two, say, “I will not panic about this right now.