Internet dating message advice
Those 17 to 23 days of messages are just the first chapter in your story. As the internet plays an ever greater part in our social lives, with sites such as Facebook helping us to keep in touch with our friends, it's inevitable that we also use it to help us run our love lives as well. Use your mobile phone to browse singles, view profiles and see photos on our dating website.It feels a bit more intimate.” Of course, if you’re nervous, there are other things you can do to speed up the getting-to-know-you process.One friend tells me that, if she has a positive feeling about someone, she gives them the details of her Facebook account and switches to messaging them away from the dating site.Baldly, without meeting someone, there’s only so much information you can glean about them – knowing someone’s taste in films, music, food does not a personality make. There’s a danger of idealising them and imagining your future together before you’ve exchanged a single smile.What’s more, you have no way of telling which bits of information are true.
“Try not to message for more than two weeks, and if you're nervous, you could always speak on the phone first.That way, you can mutually scout each other’s profiles and get a clearer impression of whether you’d get along socially. But if they don’t have anything to hide (and assuming you don’t) it’s one way to let someone in, before taking the step to meet them – especially if you don’t live particularly near one another. I’m not advising that you throw caution to the wind and arrange a date for every day of the week (although if you feel confident enough to do so, then go for it.Many macchiatos maketh the match and not all of us are great in writing). Which of your needs did you think they might fulfil?Now, I’m not for a moment hinting at any sinister goings-on.The fact is – you’re unlikely to meet a con artist or lunatic.