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If you’re a regular reader, you probably knew that I was on the CBS Early Show in July. We wrote two new profile essays that were unique, funny and confident.Appearing with me was one of my all-time favorite clients, Tom Pandolfo. We renamed him “Look Ma No Hair.”And we watched as his in-box filled up with interested women.I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father.Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.Here’s what I found: This proves, in stark and undeniable terms, two things:…Life – and people – can be incredibly unfair.
Sure enough, few women give a fair shake to a man who is 5’3”, no matter what else he has going for him. So I tried changing my profile for three days just to see what the difference was between being 5’3″ and 5’10”. You don’t really need to feel “protected” from the dangers of suburbia. Others are shorter and squatter and will always appear heavier.Some people have shorter torsos and trunks, which will affect their visual proportions; a longer torso makes you look skinnier even if you’re overweight while a shorter one makes you appear wider.I wanted to know if height was the only difference and the constant deal breaker. And no amount of complaining is going to change it. And why, in God’s name, is it important to stand on your tiptoes to kiss a guy? Is there any legitimate reason not to go out with this amazing, amazing man? So I moved my profile from Pittsburgh and posted it for 3 days in a town where nobody knew me (Philadelphia).